Helpful advice – and a word of caution

For some years I've advocated for Gold Star Wives receiving the same property tax exemption provided survivors of our totally disabled veterans. I've been feeling somewhat better and picked up some steam and got onto the bandwagon (I treasure mixed metaphors) to plow ahead to get some interest among others. 

That hasn't gone so well. Not only is it a difficult sell in a state economy battered by Covid, it is also just one concern among so many affecting veterans and our families. Fortunately, we in Colorado have our United Veterans Coalition to bring to bear 460,000 veterans' voices for legislators to hear,

The UVC does its job well. Their decades-long track record is proof.  The inclusion of a multitude of our largest and smallest veterans' organizations is another proof of the trust placed in UVC by us as veterans. One voice, 460,000 addressing agreed-upon legislative objectives.

But things can still be difficult. I've been concerned about bringing the issue up with the veterans' groups and my elected representatives, hoping for inclusion of Gold Star Wives' property tax exemption in the UVC 2022 legislative agenda. That's been hard, with less enthusiasm that I'd expected, and also hard because UVC has its well-established way of doing things. I knew little about UVC objectives and how to get UVC support, but when I asked for updates to information given me in 2019 before starting these current efforts my emails and calls went unanswered. Of course, nobody owes me any response at all - we're all volunteers in these veterans' projects.

You know the phrase: "Lead, follow or get out of the way!" In the vacuum of responses to my inquiries, I found nobody to follow and so I started seeking interest from others. The basic step was clearly getting UVC "primary members" behind what would have to be the unanimous coalition approval. Although I certainly have no attitude about "get out of the way," I didn't grasp the friction that my trodding on others' turf would cause as I reached out to primary coalition members.

So doing what I've been doing hasn't gone too well with UVC and what they're doing. Their opposition to my concerns about Gold Star Wives (I'm a Gold Star Family Member) is perfectly understandable because they are the experienced lobbyists, chosen for their dedication and successes.  GSW wasn't an objective in 2014, 2015, (it was an objective in 2016 as I asked), 2017, 2018, 2019, 2020 or 2022. They've mentioned to others that my urging for it to be a 2022 objective wasn't well-received.

I've appreciated their two emails of useful guidance after I directly asked them, " I guess I should just ask outright, should efforts on Gold Star Wives stop altogether? "

Okay. Hand gently patted and pushed away from the throttle. I take it the coalition's suggestion is to "follow the UVC legislative committee updates" to see if action happens to develop among member organizations before coalition approval in November Gold Star Wives' taxation. Also, the gentle inference is that approaching my legislators for interest in their help next year, and approaching groups like the Legion or Colorado National Guard wasn't helpful or welcome, thus the guidance instead of encouragement or advice to do ... anything.

Darn. I'd hoped, expected even, some hand-holding. Some guidance and encouragement. Referring back to their email of sixteen months ago was interesting, and the point was that I should have remembered it and been compliant with it. I guess I was influenced most by our leadership's 16 Nov 2016 instruction:

 "it is crucial that each of you reach out to your own State Senator and  Representative, and at least let him/her know that you are part of the UVC, and talk about how important it is that we support our veterans,

Oh, well.  Lesson learned about playing nice with others.